The Loudmouth Protestant

August 22, 2007

Can I Not Say “Hi” Sometimes?

Filed under: Uncategorized — nickisym @ 2:13 am

It’s an important question. I know that as Christians we are called to love our neighbors as we love ourselves, but what do you do when someone’s greeting becomes an annoyance to you?

Case in point: There is a neighborhood homeless person on my block. Well I am not sure that he is homeless, but everytime I see him, he is outside–it could be 8:00 AM or PM. He is missing quite a few teeth and walks on a crutch–yes one crutch, not crutches. I am usually very diligent about saying “hi” to him, but lately his “hey sweetie, hey gorgeous” lines have worn very thin on me. Today was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

As usual I walked past him and he said “Hey sweetie, I haven’t seen you in a while, why you don’t talk to me?” Immediately my blood started to boil because I was irritated that he believes we have such amazing rapport that it would warrant his calling me pet names and missing non-existent conversations. He then said “Excuse me” three times and at the fourth call I turned around to see what he could possibly want from me. When I turned around he bid me to come over to him and I briskly declines by saying “I don’t have time for this.”

And in saying all of this, it reminds me of the multitude of men I encounter on a daily basis who find it necessary to cat call me, “psst” me, call me “beautiful,” “sexy” and other phrases not directly related to what my God-given name is.

So now I am wondering, “Do I have a right to be fed up?” Do I have to say “hi” when a man greets me by saying “Hey sexy.” Do I respond when a perfect stranger–whom I believe has foul intentions–says “You’re beautiful?”

What’s a girl to do?



  1. Well, most women who grew up in NYC learn, at a young age, to develop that mean mug. There’s a special place young women from NYC go to when a dude tries to holla. I don’t know where that place is, but I know they go there. At that place is where they learn to mean mug. It’s like the Shoalin Temple, but not for kung fu, but for mean muggin’. Once you find your temple, you will learn the ways of mug fu.

    But serious though, you should probably keep it movin’ when it comes to potentially homeless guys.

    Comment by Jay — August 22, 2007 @ 3:34 am | Reply

  2. Thank you sense (as in sen-say, I couldn’t find the accent on my keyboard)

    Comment by loudmouthprotestant — August 22, 2007 @ 2:37 pm | Reply

  3. A girl must just decide two things: Really let the guy have it or just do nothing. It’s funny we blogged on a simliar topic! There is a guy named frustrated hubby that gave me some advice on my “friendly” blog that may be useful for you but was a scary scenario for me.
    I’m at a point where I just am going to be guarded by it all. Sad though really because then it may shut out a sincere guy. If there is really such thing anymore as a single woman trying to live day to day!

    Comment by Arm Jerker J. — August 26, 2007 @ 6:52 pm | Reply

  4. Yeah, I usually act like I can’t hear them, unless they get belligerent and then I’ll just look at them and nod and keep it moving. This is when an i-pod or other device with earphones comes in handy (even if they’re not playing anything). That and sunglasses…

    Comment by Tarani — August 31, 2007 @ 12:30 am | Reply

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