The Loudmouth Protestant

July 2, 2008

Anxiety Free

Filed under: God,life,love,relationships — nickisym @ 9:55 pm
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What a difference an on-time word makes. 

On Monday evening, I found myself in a very familiar place, in Bible Study with some trusted friends and a great spiritual family. I had been wavering earlier that day on whether to go because I rationalized that my tiredness was a good reason to stay away, but I also remembered the fact that when you don’t want to go that your word is waiting right there for you. So I pressed forward to see what God had in store for me.

His gift to me was a Bible Study facilitated by a guest teacher entitled “What Are You Trying to Prove?” but for the purpose of this post I will subtitle it “Status Anxiety.” Our guest teacher had been on this topic for about three weeks and I don’t think it ever resonated with me as clearly as it did that evening. 

Status anxiety is defined as a worry that we are in danger of failing to conform to society’s ideas of success. I have been struggling with this for sometime in no other area but my personal relationships as it pertains to love. I have watched a few friends get married, a few people I know of get engaged, a few friends fall in love and still a few friends go out on dates, which combined, adds up to everything I have not been doing for the past five years.

Considering all of this, I have to wonder what is wrong with me. What is my defect? God, when will you bring my Boaz? When will it happen for me? Just this past Monday I found out a good friend had a date. I guessed it before she could even tell me because I felt like any new advancement in anyone’s life I knew–aside from the amazing friends who are studying for the Bar or graduation or career progression–had to do with the formation of bonds with the opposite sex. So, when she affirmed that she was indeed going on a date, I expressed my joy and happiness for her, but at the same time my heart sunk because it was one more person experiencing something that I wasn’t. I was truly excited for her because I knew this was going to be a wonderful experience for her. After I hung up the phone, my eyes started to tear up as I walked down the crowded New York street. But the spirit told me “All things in due time.” After He told me this, He then told me “Be not anxious.” He didn’t just say it once, he repeated it to me until the tears that were threatening to drop down my face dried up in the corners of my eyes. He said it until my heartbeat went from rapid to normal. He said it until I knew that everything was going to be alright because He knows the plans He has for me. And at that moment I knew what I needed to say to speak to my spirit on those days when it seemed like everyone else’s race was progressing ahead of mine.

So back to Bible Study…Our teacher had us write down the area of our lives where we were struggling with status anxiety. She gave us five minutes at the end of the class to do so and I was very honest on my sheet of paper. I feel my social life leaves a little something to desired. My heart yearns for the love of another. And sometimes just hearing about others finding that “one” makes a me a little misty-eyed for my own. Our time was up and the teacher invited us to share what we wrote. 

Initially I was going to keep it to myself because love is a very personal matter for me. And talking about it to a room full of people who I am not close to was strange. But as I sat there listening to other people share their status anxiety struggles, my heart starting beating uncontrollably. It was beating so hard that I could see the flower blossoms on my shirt bloom and contract. As my heart beat faster and faster, I also got a little nauseous because I knew what this was all about. Usually when I am in Bible Study and I am presented with the task of sharing my thoughts this rapid heart beating happens, and so that night was no different.

As my heart continued to beat, I had an internal dialogue with God about my not wanting to share it and he told me that if I didn’t share it I would be stealing a word from someone. He told me that if I didn’t, there’d be someone who would go without a revelation and even if I didn’t want to put my business out on the street, it wasn’t about me anyways. So as the clock ticked and the teacher looked for more people to share, I raised my hand–me and another young lady who are fairly quiet in study. As I stood up and greeted the room I felt nervous. As I started to share I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes and could hear the sound of my voice cracking under the pressure of trying to hold in my emotions. I shared my struggle and the revelation that the spirit gave me earlier in the day following my friend’s announcement. I shared a few other scriptures which God illuminated to me in that very moment and in that moment I was relieved that God pushed me to speak up.

After all of this–as if everything leading up to and during weren’t enough, one of the other teachers decided to pray for me during our closing prayer. He mentioned many of the things I shared and prayed for my keeping and my continued trust in God. I stood holding hands with a close friend on one side and a new friend on the other and tears of joy streamed down my face. All I could think was that God is so incredible. One of the things the teacher said in his prayer is “God, you hear her cries.” And that was so deep to me because I didn’t cry in front of anyone in that room while I was speaking, but while all eyes were closed and all heads were bowed I cried and I thanked God for his goodness and his mercy toward me.

Following the prayer, a good friend embraced me and told me that all I said was for her. Then my new friend told me that it spoke to her. Then as I stood there wiping the tears from my eyes, person after person came up to me to tell me how I spoke to them. And I was full to the brim with joy because in that moment I realized how God uses people and how it really does behoove a person, if they have God-given word on their heart, to share it so that all can be fed. And yet and still all of it wasn’t over. Two of the older members of the Bible study approached me and spoke words of encouragement, peace and wisdom into my life beyond anything I could possibily imagine. They both told me that the blessing for my obedience would be incredible and though one could consider the blessing being one to come, I know that the blessing came that night, when for just one moment, I stepped outside of myself and what I thought I was normal to speak into the lives of others.

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2 Comments »

  1. That was an amazingly bold, provocative, strong and honest post. I am inspired to hear you thoughts so purely, and am quite moved to understand your perspective. I can truly relate to your hearts desires, and have found myself in a place of a heart beating uncontrollably as I shared a piece of my testimony. We never know how God is working behind the scenes to put us in a place to bless others. I am SO grateful to hear you words and struggles. When someone like yourself has the courage to talk about their struggles they are only bringing the community of believers closer together. You are also opening yourself up to the prayers of those who believe. Thanks so much for this! Really…it was great.

    Comment by Jovian — July 6, 2008 @ 9:09 pm | Reply

  2. […] Wait on it and be not anxious. […]

    Pingback by Be Easy « The Loudmouth Protestant — August 10, 2008 @ 11:14 pm | Reply


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