The Loudmouth Protestant

August 22, 2008

Receiving Rejection

Filed under: God,life,love,relationships,work — nickisym @ 4:15 pm

Everyone—in some way—is scared of rejection. Who wants to think of a lover rejecting your admission of undying love and affection? A friend deciding that you can’t be friends anymore. A mother giving up her child. Losing a job. Even the man who hands out fliers in front of my job probably doesn’t like it that I tell him, “No thank you,” instead of just taking one. Rejection is just one of those cold hard parts of life and I’ll admit, I’m not a huge fan of it at all. At the thought of rejection in any sphere of life, be it professional or personal relationships, I haven’t done the best job at coping with being denied the things I want–or what I think I deserve.

I’ve cried after being turned down for a job. Cried after more than a few like-interests—I don’t want to call it love—rebuffed me. Sometimes I cry when I miss the train—it really is devastating sometimes. I just have this gag reflex to release salty discharge when I am either rejected or see it coming—and yes, I can discern when it’s coming (look at God!). So what’s a girl to do?

Well, today God turned on the light in the corners of mind, blew the cobwebs out, and let me know that I’ve never been rejected. Does that seem too idealistic to you? If it is, then I guess you don’t really believe God is that good. Here’s what he shared with me.

“You’ve never been rejected because I have always been here with and for you. Anyone who has rejected you was not who I intended for you. Any place that has not hired you is not where I want you to be. Any train you missed is not the one I want you to be on. Stop thinking that because someone told you “no” you have lost anything.”

After this, I thought to myself, “God, you are right. I have been grossly out of order with the way I perceive rejection.”

My Bible study teacher mentioned that there are things that God takes out of our lives that we commiserate over, but in reality it is His will and His protecting us from greater harm. Of course I never see it like that initially, but I always see it in retrospect. He is always so diligent to show me what the aftershock of any situation is. For example, when I got turned down for a job I so desperately wanted at a major magazine, I was utterly devastated. There was nothing anyone could tell me that could of made me feel better. I knew I was an awesome candidate so I couldn’t understand why I didn’t get the job. A few months later, the brass at the magazine changed and a few months after that people started getting laid off and a few months after that, the magazine folded. He knew what he was doing.

He always knows what He is doing, but it takes our trusting to know that everything He does, He does it well. So I write this today with renewed faith that everything God does, He does it well. And if He tells me to go right, I’m going to have to go right. If he takes someone out of my life, it’s quite alright—considering I can do bad all by myself anyways. Everything really happens for a reason. Sometimes it happens for a season. And sometimes it happens for a lifetime. I never know which is which, but I guess my biggest job it to trust God and follow His lead. From this moment forward, rejection is a non sequitur to me.


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