The Loudmouth Protestant

March 3, 2009

Michelle Obama as Helpmate is a Good Thing


I absolutely love when people create a dust up out of things they just don’t understand. This time everyone is in a frenzy about the number of times–4–the word “helpmate” was used in Michelle Obama’s cover story in the current issue of People. Some are bristling because they think that calling her a helpmate doesn’t give her equal footing. But I’d like to help clear things up and show people that being called a helpmate is nothing bad at all.

The word helpmate originates in Genesis 2:18, “And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” “Comparable to him” is what the Lord said, not to be confused with someone who is put forth to serve him that isn’t on his level. That is what Michelle Obama is. She is comparable to Barack. Ivy League educated like Barack. Strong like Barack. Funny like Barack. Spiritual like Barack. I think about what a heaven-sent relationship they have because not only does it take a strong woman to stand beside–not behind–a man like that, but it takes a woman who has been under the covering of God to humble herself in the midst of having pretty awesome gifts herself. God knew the plans he had for them before they were even created. He knew they would meet in that law firm one day, that they’d soon thereafter join in a covenant relationship as man and wife and then one day she would be the one holding the Bible up as her husband was sworn in to be the first black president of the United States of America. I don’t count it as her strength, but the strength endowed to her by the grace of God and she can only stand in her role right now as his helpmate which encompasses her being a wife, a mother and a partner–everything he needs.

Michelle’s strongest position in Barack’s life is going to be as his helpmate–the spiritual keeper of his peace. A helpmate also is an encourager, they speak life when death is abounding, they love unconditionally inasmuch as God gives them the power to do so, they create a peaceful home for their family, they cover their family in prayer and they foster an environment that is conducive to their mate’s personal growth as well as their growth in God.

I myself have always prayed to be a helpmate and to receive a helpmate when God is ready for me to have one. I don’t discount the phrase husband, but I recognize “husband” is only the noun and “helpmate” is the verb that will shape our lives. Michelle is Barack’s wife but as a helpmate she has helped shape him into the man we see today–not discounting his mother and grandmother. Without Michelle’s confidence in him, helping him as she campaigned across the country with him and going off on her own to speak to constituents, we might not even have him as the president. Part of what has made Barack so appealing is that he doesn’t have just any woman as a wife, but this obviously strong, intelligent, beautiful woman who is on his side, ride or die. Michelle has shown women what strength looks like, what humility looks like, what love looks like and most importantly, what a modern-day helpmate looks like.

Don’t for a second be discouraged because you think she is playing second fiddle to him instead of continuing her successful career in law, because she isn’t. This is God’s timing and she is operating in her role for this season. God has big plans for Michelle Obama too. Trust, in 2018, People will be calling Barack, Michelle’s helpmate and I’ll be back saying the same thing all over again for the people who think being a helpmate is all subservience and inequality. Being a helpmate is to be esteemed of all things. Anyone can put a ring on it, or receive a ring, but it takes an extraordinary person to be a helpmate in fulfilling God’s purpose in another’s life.



  1. I absolutely agree and am happy I came across this article.

    Comment by Rose — April 8, 2009 @ 3:01 pm | Reply

  2. Rose, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to read the post. Be Blessed.

    Comment by loudmouthprotestant — April 8, 2009 @ 10:45 pm | Reply

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