The Loudmouth Protestant

May 25, 2010

“Nothin’ On You” Girl vs. the Proverbs 31 Woman

I’m the whole package because Jesus of Nazareth.

I stay prayed up so nothing’s ever tragic.

I’m made by the creator, there is none greater.

I’m not trying to fool you, I’m just trying to school you.

If you want my number, better dial His first and go seek that water that can quench any thirst.

Yeah you’re fine and you seem really sweet, but I’m looking for a man who will practice what He preached.

My Remix of  B.O.B’s “Nothin’ On You”

Yeah I know, you probably came here really excited to know that there is a remix to B.O.B’s hit song “Nothin’ on You” and then were crestfallen to see it’s nothin’ you ever heard of. Sorry for deceiving you. I was compelled to write this remix after I heard the song and was caught up singing it for a whole day. While it is true that I AM “the whole package, plus I pay my taxes”, I considered that I don’t want to sell myself on that alone and there is more that speaks deeply to who I am. It’s easy to convince someone that they should be with you because you are beautiful, have a job, are charming, funny, etc. But, beauty is fleeting and charm is deceptive, so says a scripture most of us are familiar with. 

I once had a man tell me that when he heard Proverbs 31 read in a church service, it immediately made him think of me. He read Proverbs 31:30 to me, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Being that Proverbs 31 woman is what most woman desire to be, but it’s quite another thing for someone else to identify the Proverbs 31 woman in you. At the moment he told me this I was speechless because before that I was too used to people being attracted to what their eyes saw and not what their spirit discerned about me.  It was largely one of the reasons why I fell so hard for that person, because he didn’t dwell on my outward appearance, he focused himself–as much as he could–on my inner woman.

As I write this I’m reminded that I’d rather someone see my heart, God’s heart and spirit within me, than my outward appearance. Admittedly, I do my fair share of  flaunting my beauty and charm, it’s human nature. But what I really desire is the person who can look past that and see more to me. That is what creates long-lasting, enduring love. I desire to be the person who doesn’t depend on her looks to get her by, but her character, her integrity, her faith, her heart, His spirit. That is attractive to me. I want and need to be more of the woman Peter spoke of when he said, “Do not adorn yourselves outwardly by braiding your hair, and by wearing gold ornaments or fine clothing, rather let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight.” I think we should all hope and pray to be the Proverbs 31 and the woman whose beauty is lasting because of a gentle and quiet spirit.

So, that’s my prayer, that myself and every other woman I know and don’t know would focus not just on being the “Nothin’ On You” girl, but the Proverbs 31 and the 1 Peter 3:3-4 woman.

November 15, 2007

Can’t a Girl Have Standards?

So as you all know I signed myself up for Crazy Blind Date, a site that matches people up based on arbitrary questions and basics of dating requirements and texts you on the day of your date to tell you where to meet your boy–or girl–wonder. It’s been about a week now since I signed up and much to my surprise, I got an e-mail yesterday saying they don’t have a date for me. Well, I guess I wasn’t that surprised because I was told earlier on that having too many restrictions would ensure I didn’t get a date. But what gives?

You see, like many women of my stature, I have standards and I don’t want to call them high for fear of sounding like a witch, but I guess you call a spade a spade. But at the most basic level that Crazy Blind Date matches people up, they consider my standards too high to get a date on their clock.

I remember when I first encountered this problem. It was when they were asking me the requirements of my ideal date, so I was honest and said they need to above a certain height, be a certain ethnicity, be a Christian and maybe one other selection which I don’t remember now. Somehow they consider my having 3-4 basic requirements of a man too restrictive. Gee, had they given me even more questions to answer they might have just kicked me off the site completely for being insane. So who exactly will this system work for?

Stay tuned folks…

October 12, 2007

The Questions…

Filed under: life,men,questions,randomness,relationships,women — nickisym @ 4:50 pm

One of my favorite songs from the artist formerly known as Common Sense is “Questions.” It is off of “Like Water For Chocolate.” I am pretty inquisitive person so I love the concept of questions–in songs or in real life.

This morning, as I was peaking around on a upcoming social networking site and a member posted the following as part of his profile:

5 Questions Most Feared By Men:

1. What are you thinking about?
2. Do you love me?
3. Do I look fat in this?
4. Do you think she is prettier than me?
5. What would you do if I died?

I laughed for a while, then I pondered and then I agreed because I know these are the questions that guys don’t like considering I’ve asked at least one of them at one point in my life–I’ll never tell which one.  But then I wondered, “What are the five questions most feared by women?” I’ve been drawing a blank ever since and feel like I am losing a grip on my womanhood–not really on the latter. I pondered it with another colleague who came up with these:

  1. Is it true you pick guys based on personality vs. looks?
  2. How many people did you sleep with?
  3. Are you still a virgin?
  4. Do you think that guy is hotter than me?
  5. Am I your one true love?
  6. Were you checking that guy out?
  7. Why did you break up with your first boyfriend?

Honestly I am not stoked by any of these questions and would answer them all truthfully and without hesitation. So I am searching for those heart-wrenching questions. I am a woman and I can’t even figure them out. The one that I did come up with was:

1. Are you still in love or do you think about your ex?

So what do you think the question are? Do share.

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